We all have a way of seeing life. We all have our pair of glasses that give us an unconscious bias. My mentor always used to say that you see a person’s true character when their livelihood or reputation is at risk.
We want to make things diverse and we want to include everyone at the table. But we are going the wrong way about it. To truly have transformation we need to start with us. The way we see is the way we are.
BIAS IN TIMES OF UNCERTAINTY
Whenever I thought of myself as a woman or even as a Romanian was mostly in correlation with situations where I had a feeling of injustice or I felt ashamed of my own paradigms around women and Romanians. At that point I wanted to shout how proud I was that I am a woman or I am Romanian.
Isn’t this funny? What these 2 feelings have in common is inadequacy, feelings of lack or scarcity and victimhood . All these are driven by fear that lead to self-protection. It seems that in the name of equality we are creating more division through the way we talk and through the way we control the environment in our organisations.
I am not saying for one second that certain groups have not faced tremendous hardship and exploitation. However, maybe the conversation should be about how we can all come together to learn about each other and how can each of us take responsibility to create a better world for all. We put a badge of fairness when we don’t really understand the depth of this word. This has become more a game of “I have suffered until now let me show you how you need to suffer as well” – “An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth”.